4 Ways of Reconnecting With Your Spouse After Kids

Happy Valentines Day! What a great time to talk about reconnecting and rebuilding your relationship with your spouse after having kids.

Having children can really change your life in 1000 great ways but it can have some negative impacts too. No sleep, less time for yourself and certainly less time for your spouse. I feel a lot of women struggle with finding the balance of it all. Especially going from having no kids to now having one. This year one of goals was to start focusing on my relationship again after it took the back seat with having my son so I thought I would share how we are working on it with your all.

Make Date Nights a Priority and Make Them Fun

Now this is not only great for your relationship but also great for your own personal mental health. Even if you don’t have a babysitter weekly, I think weekly dates are important in a relationship. Wait until your kids go to bed and create an at home date. For Valentines Day I made my fiancé a date jar, which is basically a mason jar with painted popsicle sticks that have different date ideas, some at home and some out. Weekly we are going to pick one out and do it, makes things simple and fun.

Spend One on One Time Daily

Even if you are doing “date night” spend time at the end of the day or first thing in the morning just talking to each other, not about kids, not about work or household chores. Just life, hopes, dreams, maybe even furthering getting to know each other.

Do Small Things Daily to Make the Other Person Smile

Really think about your partner and what truly makes them happy and it can be the simplest thing. Just showing daily effort can improve your relationships so much. Bringing home flowers, cleaning up the house, starting the coffee before the other person is up. We forget about the small things because the world is so consumed with the big things. It doesn’t always have to be jewelry and designer pieces.

Find Time Though Out the Day to Talk

I know not every one has the chance to text or talk all day to their partner and even if you do maybe some people don’t want to. Even a lunch time phone call daily can mean so much, you can talk about how your days are going, how the kids are, the simple little things just to hear each others voice.

Thats it for today you guys!

Thank you so much for being here, if you loved this one check out my article filled with tips for new moms next. If you haven’t already make sure you follow me on Instagram and YouTube so we can keep in touch, I post a lot more often on those platforms.